Bezanya 1st time vs 2nd time

Saat ni aku dah pun melepasi minggu ke 39.. betul laa kata org.. setiap pengalaman ibu mengandung dan melahirkan anak adalah berbeza.. sungguh x sama.. kalo dulu masa mengandungkan my lil'Darwisy.. alhamdulillah.. tersangat laa mudah.. xder rasa alah.. makan laa segala mak nenek.. x rasa penat berjalan or buat aktiviti apa2 pun.. smpai minggu ke 38 tiba2 jer terus turun tanda (sedikit darah)..

Perjalanan ke hospital pun tanpa sebarang debaran.. x tau pun nk rasa mcmana sbb xpernah tau rasa sakit bersalin mcmana kan.. siap makan epal lagi.. sampai di pintu hospital belum sempat masuk labor room.. aku dah hentam telan minyak selusuh.. patutnya time sakit baru minum kan.. hahaha.. endup aku ulang toilet berpuluh kali... hambik kau.. last2 suh my hubby belikan nasi sbb lapar sgt dah (persediaan utk berjuang di labor room).. Dat time mmg tgh pagi2 buta kot.. dlm 4am++.. menu yg ada hanya laa nasi kandaq yea.. org gelisah nk bersalin.. aku lak sedap melantak nasi kandaq abis sebungkus.. hahaha..

Aku dimasukkan ke dlm labor room dlm jam 6pg, sakit kontraksi tu datang on n off.. sakitnya ya Allah.. hanya Dia yg tahu.. lebih kurang jam 8.45pg, selepas 3 kali pushing.. alhamdulillah.. lahirlaa insan yg dinanti-nanti.. Muhammad Emir Darwisy b. Muhammad Noor Amin nama diberi..

Bezanya kali nih.. dari saat awal mengandung lagi dah mcm2 dugaan yg aku perlu hadapi.. 1st trimester.. aku mengalami masalah di bahagian penting, menyebabkan kesukaran & kesakitan masa berjalan.. mmg tensen.. sakit beb.. bila pegi check pakar.. Doktor cakap ada satu point/joint yg terkoyak menyebabkan aku rasa sakit.. No solution.. di advise jgn byk berjalan.. abis nk pegi kerja camna..??

Doktor ckp slalunya kes mcm ni jadi utk 1st time mummy.. hallo.. this is my 2nd child, mcmana bole jadi.. haihhh.. heran..? Memandangkan xder ubat melainkan pain killer, aku akan berasa sakit sepanjang kandungan yea.. too bad for me.. but looking at the bright side.. pihak company menyediakan satu parking lot khas utk ibu yg mempunyai masalah.. atas surat dan nasihat doktor yea.. bukan senang nk dapat..

Lepas tu terjadi pulak kejadian turun darah.. aku sgt panik.. saat bangun tdo then tgk tshirt yg dipakai byk kesan darah.. bukan sedikit yea.. 2-3 tompok jugak laa.. huhuhu.. terus pegi check.. alhamdulillah baby sehat.. tp kedudukan uri/placenta aku di bawah. Sama jugak laa solution.. kena berehat, x bole bergerak byk.. and paling teruk.. stop SI with husband.. aiyakk.. kesian laa my weekend husband nih.. nasib baik laa hubby tersayang memahami dan sayang sgt dgn wifey dia nih.. tho kadang2 dia x reti pun nk tunjuk.. I knew u very well my dear..

2nd trimester.. still placenta problem.. mula2 check.. post 2.. kata doktor kedudukan menutup laluan bersalin.. huhu.. mmg dah scary dah.. kalo makin turun.. alamat tingkap laa kali ni.. mmg xder choice lain dah.. so MC laa berhari-hari.. duduk, makan, tdo, tgk tv jer laa aku nih.. haihh.. nasib baik lama kelamaan dari post 2.. placenta up ke post 1.. but still under monitor.. hmmm.. aku mmg kena berhati-hati sbb any aktiviti berat bole menyebabkan aku bleeding.. and kalo berlebihan aku terpaksa face premature birth/labor..xmo.. xmo.. mintak simpang laa..

Masuk 3rd trimester.. ingatkan hari semakin cerah.. rupanya hujan di tengahari.. ada few times yg aku rasa mcm ada sedikit kebocoran.. yg aku sendiri x sure sama ada white discharge or waterbag.. bila buat routine checkup.. inform nurse and doktor bertugas pasal apa yg aku rasa.. terusnya aku dihantar ke hospital menaiki ambulans.. aiyakk.. this is not de 1st time laa aku naik ambulans.. tp mmg x best.. haihhh.. dgn bunyi sirennya yg bising n kuat, van yg x stabil sampai perut aku pun rasa memusing-musing. Sudahnya di hospital, lepas 2-3 checkup yg aku kena buat.. terus kena tahan 3hari 2 malam di sana. Nasib baiklaa nurse semua baik2.. lepas keluar.. kena buat followup checkup another 2 weeks.. alhamdulillah.. resultnya just normal discharge.. no infection and no waterbag leaking.. fuhhh.. lega...

Current condition.. nmpak segalanya berjalan lancar.. placenta up.. baby at de right position.. just menanti saat turun tanda jer.. tp tu laa.. penantian itu satu penyiksaan.. inipun sebahagian dari dugaan.. aku harapkan waktu nya cepat mcm anak yg sulung.. tp hingga saat ni pun belum muncul tanda lagi.. hmm.. aku perlu bersangka baik.. pasti ada sebab kenapa belum lagi masanya.. InsyaAllah.. segala-gala ketentuan Allah pasti ada hikmahnya..

Ya Allah.. semoga kau permudahkan laa proses bersalin aku nanti.. semoga anak yg bakal dilahirkan sehat sempurna dan menjadi anak yg soleh/solehah serta menjadi mukmin yg beriman nanti.. InsyaAllah.. amin..

HypnoBirthing.. Apa tuh..?

Bila tiba saat2 menghitung hari, mcm2 perasaan muncul.. tho this is not the 1st time, tp pengalaman x semestinya sama.. mungkin lebih susah atau lebih mudah.. wallahuallam..

Semoga Allah permudahkan proses bersalin aku nanti.. Amin..

Skrg ni bahan2 bacaan byk menjadi teman, info2 & pengalaman menjadi pengajaran buat diri lebih bersedia. Kali ni aku tertarik dgn topic Hypnobirthing iaitu sejenis teknik penenang diri, bersedia utk bersalin tanpa bantuan ubat2an.

Mcm hypnosis.. menggunakan kuasa minda bawah sedar utk mengawal rasa sakit bersalin dan memudahkan proses bersalin.. bezanya kita buat dlm keadaan kita sedar. Melalui teknik ni, membuatkan kita percaya bahawa kelahiran baby itu adalah normal. Kita diajar melatih diri berdepan dgn kesakitan dgn cara paling relax dan bertindakbalas dgn gesaan semulajadi tubuh badan.

Frust sedikit sbb tahu pasal teknik ni di hujung2 waktu.. sbb kita perlu attend kelas yg mengajar teknik hypnobirthing ni dgn betul start from 25weeks lagi.. huhuhu.. Ni dah masuk 38weeks.. achaner tuh.. hmm..

Tp x per.. sekurang2nya belum terlambat utk ambik tahu.. dan gunakan tips2 yg ada sehabis mungkin.. lgpun kita mmg berkuasa utk mengawal minda & badan kita.. terpulang pada diri masing2 kan.. So jom.. baca sedikit sebanyak info tentang hypnobirthing ni.

About HypnoBirthing®: Source

HypnoBirthing® - The Mongan Method, is a unique method of relaxed, natural childbirth education, enhanced by hypnosis techniques, that allows women to use their natural instincts to bring about a safer, easier and more comfortable birthing in a way that most mirrors nature. Emphasis is placed on pregnancy and childbirth, as well as on pre-birth parenting and the subconsciousness of the pre-born baby. As a birthing method, HypnoBirthing® is as new as tomorrow and as old as ancient times.

Now in its 21st year, HypnoBirthing® is a complete antenatal education. Our birthing classes are intended to help you have the most natural childbirth possible, using easily-learned self hypnosis and breathing techniques. It is presented in five 2 1/2 hour childbirth classes .

Whatever birth you're planning for, be it at home, hospital or birthing centre, HypnoBirthing® can help.

 Source : Babycenter.com

I’ve heard hypnobirthing can help to make labour easier and less painful. Is this true?

Joanne Turner answers:

You may find hypnobirthing helpful. Of course, every mum's labour and birth is different. Hypnobirthing techniques aim to teach you ways to stay in control and calm during labour and birth, whatever happens.

The ideal time to start classes is between 25 weeks and 29 weeks of pregnancy. This will allow you ample time to practise. If you're already past this stage, don't be put off. You may still benefit from classes in your last weeks of pregnancy.

Hypnobirthing embraces a different attitude to the way we think and talk about labour and delivery. Your hypnobirthing teacher may talk about:

• tightenings or surges, rather than painful contractions;
• practice labour, rather than false labour;
• birth breathing, rather than pushing contractions.

The idea is that the language we use can make us feel more positive about our ability to labour and birth.

At hypnobirthing classes, you'll learn about:

• Positions for labour and birth. Staying in an upright position can help to shorten the length of your labour.

• Deep relaxation and self-hypnosis. These methods can help you to stay alert, but at the same time shut out the world and focus on your body.

• Breathing techniques.

Hypnobirthing techniques can help you cope with labour and reduce your need for other forms of pain relief. If you're in a lot of pain, are worried or feel scared during labour, your body is likely to go into fight-or-flight mode. Stress hormones, the main one being adrenaline, will flood your body.

Adrenaline reduces the blood flow to your uterus (womb) and digestive system. Instead, your blood flows more readily to the large muscles in your limbs so that you're ready to fight or run away.

As a result, the muscles of your uterus will work less well, because they are deprived of blood and oxygen. This can make labour harder and longer. Your baby will be getting less oxygen too.

Plus, just when you most need it, the hormone that eases labour, oxytocin, is less likely to be released. Stress hormones stop your body producing oxytocin. You'll also produce fewer of the natural hormones (endorphins) which numb pain and help you feel good.

Controlling your feelings through self-hypnosis can help you to prevent these stress responses from kicking in. Hypnobirthing is thought to:

• Help you keep higher levels of oxygen in your body because of the deep breathing techniques.

• Reduce your need for pain-relieving drugs, such as pethidine or an epidural.

• Increase your chance of having a straightforward vaginal birth.

• Reduce your need for drugs to speed up labour.

If you decide to attend hypnobirthing classes, it's a good idea to bring your birth partner with you. Birth partners can sometimes feel outside the experience of labour and birth. They may be there in the room with you as you labour, but find it hard to understand what you're going through.

In hypnobirthing classes, your birth partner will learn alongside you. You will both learn breathing, relaxation and visualisation techniques. Your teacher will give your birth partner scripts to read to you at home so you can carry on practising. The idea is you become so used to the techniques, it's easy for you to bring them to mind when you need them.

Once labour starts, keeping focused can help you and your partner stay as close as you can to your birth plan. You'll need to think calmly if labour doesn't go as expected, and you need medical help to give birth.

You may find hypnobirthing techniques useful wherever you have your baby, at a birth centre, at home or in hospital. Hypnobirthing classes are run privately, so you'll have to pay for them.

Benefits from Hypnobirthing

• Teaches deep levels of relaxation to eliminate the Fear-Tension-Pain Syndrome before, during and after birthing.
• Greatly reduces and often eliminates the need for chemical painkillers or drugs.
• Shortens the first phase of labor.
• Eliminates fatigue during labor, leaving mother alert, fresh, awake, and with energy for actual birthing.
• Eliminates risk or hyperventilation from “shallow” breathing methods, and helps keep oxygen supplied to baby during birthing.
• Reduces the need for an episiotomy.
• Teaches breathing techniques that allow a woman to gently breathe her baby into the world without the violence of hard, physical pushing.
• Empowers parents with techniques to achieve a gentle, calm birth for themselves and their baby.
• Embraces the concept of pre-birth parenting.
• Gives the birthing companion an integral role in the birthing.
• Promotes special bonding of mother, baby, and birthing companion.
• Fosters more rapid postnatal recovery.
• Returns birthing to the beautiful, peaceful experience nature intended.

Pregnancy And Birthing Affirmation

My baby is strong and healthy.

I trust my body.

My belly is full of light and love.

I am a strong and capable woman.

I have patience.

My cervix is firm and strong to hold my baby safe.

I am at peace with the world.

There is no need for us to hurry.

I have an open heart.

I am strong and calm and beautiful.

Birth is a wonderful, safe experience.

My body knows exactly what to do.

My baby feels my joy.

I trust my labor.

I am open to the energy of birth.

My baby is born in pure pleasure.

I ask for and receive what I need.

My baby is healthy.

I embrace the wisdom of my body.

I have an open heart.

I am surrounded by loving, nurturing support.

I trust my inner wisdom.

I fearlessly surrender to the power of my body.

My body is nourishing my baby perfectly.

I trust my knowing of what is true for me.

Pregnancy is a joy.

Birth comes easily to me.

I feel good being pregnant.

I am whole and at peace.

My baby loves to breastfeed.

I love being pregnant.

I am aware of my balanced, calm center.

My body knows how to birth my baby.

I have everything I need.

Breastfeeding feels wonderful.

My body becomes stronger and more flexible every day.

I listen to my body and my heart.

I am patient and composed.

I believe in birth.

I cooperate with my body and my baby.

My baby knows how to be born.

I put all fear aside as I prepare for the birth of my baby.

Untapped sources of strength are available to me.

I am relaxed and happy that my baby is finally coming to me.

My baby is free to choose her own destiny in the world.

I am focused on a smooth, easy birth.

I trust my body to know what it is to do.

I welcome my coming labor as the perfect one for me and my baby.

My mind is relaxed, my body is relaxed.

I am an active and powerful laboring woman.

I feel confident; I feel safe; I feel secure.

I welcome this opportunity to grow and change.

My muscles work in complete harmony to make birthing easier.

I desire foods that nourish me and support my health.

I relax as we move quickly and easily through each stage of birth.

My baby is in the perfect position for birth.

My cervix opens outward and allows my baby to ease down.

I am a link in the endless chain of birthing women.

I fully relax and turn my birthing over to Nature.

I am willing to release my baby into the world.

I choose a gentle and natural birth.

I see my baby coming smoothly from my womb.

My baby's birth will be easy because I am so relaxed.

My breath is easy, deep, and full.

My baby will be born at the perfect moment.

I turn my birthing over to my baby and my body.

My body knows exactly what to do.

Each surge of my body brings my baby closer to me.

My body is wise and purposeful.

I am totally relaxed and at ease.

I can handle whatever comes up.

My body remains still and limp.

I trust my intuition.

I release my birthing over to my body and my baby.

My baby is safe.

I put all fear aside and welcome by baby with happiness and joy.

I love and trust my body.

I deserve and receive all the love and support I need.

I deserve a gentle, natural birth.

I claim my birthright for a wonderful birth.

I am a wonderful mother.

Topic tentang hypnobirthing ni jugak pernah dikeluarkan oleh Majalah Pa&Ma.. tp dah lama dah.. terlepas laa sudah. huhu

 

Buat para ibu yg baru mengandung.. cuba2 laa mencari info tentang topik ni.. mana tau bole membantu menguatkan semangat dan diri anda ketika menghampiri detik bersalin..

: )

Completing my preparation checklist

Reaching my 38weeks.. Sedang menghitung hari.. checkup done and everything seems to be going well. The baby is in the head down position (ready for birth!) but because I don't yet have any labor signs and symptoms, so just say that insyaAllah I dah bersedia fizikal & mental untuk menerima kehadiran org baru kali ni at any time.. Kalo cakap pasal persediaan.. hmmm.. rasanya checklist utk mummy & baby dah nearly 100% completed yeay..

Slalunya org cakap bila datang baby kedua mesti parents akan recycle jer barang abg/kakak yg sedia ada.. Jimat mmg laa jimat.. tp kesian la pulak for baby baru kan.. kenapa kita x se-excited menerima kehadiran baby yg 1^st kan.. Semua benda beli baru.. pantang nmpak jer x kira online atau offline.. nafsu membeli tu memuncak jer.. hehehehe.. tp betul jugak laa.. kalo time 1st baby.. mana laa nk ada sebarang keperluan baby.. logicnya sbg mommy to be.. kerja membeli jer la kan utk lengkapkan segala keperluan.. kan.. kan..

Kalo dulu.. sbg new Umi for my lil’ precious Darwisy.. I rasa xlaa byk sgt yg I spend utk keperluan baby kot.. maybe sbb kurang ilmu & pengalaman.. budget jugak tdk begitu mengizinkan.. so preparation yg ada setakat yg perlu jer.. no luxury items yea.. But that was 5years ago.. kali ni punya experience nak menyambut my 2^nd baby rasanya sama excited mcm I nak sambut my 1^st baby.. hahaha.. semua benda I nk beli baru.. alasannya senang.. gender my 2^nd baby insyaAllah berlainan.. byk barang yg dah di letgo, disedekahkan kpd org lain, old stuff x sesuai utk menyambut org baru & necessary n necessity according to checklist yg ada di website2 tentang motherhood.

Jom tgk my preparation checklist.

My Baby List

Feeding

1.  Breast pump – Manual Avent Breast Pump DONE
2. Milk storage plastic / bottles – 10 bottles by BumbleBee & 25 plastic packs by Autumz brand DONE
3. Cooler bag for milk - Autumnz DONE
4. Ice pack – Autumnz DONE
5. Feeding bottles – 1 beli satu jer from Mothercare DONE
6. Pacifier + Holder – Not necessary
7. Bottle brush – hmm x jumpa lagi yg I berkenan bole x.. haha
8. Liquid wash for feeding bottles etc – Anakku liquid detergent DONE
9. Nipple cream – Mothercare DONE
10. Nursing pillow – My Breastfriend Nursing pillow.. I start guna during my pregnancy at 8months.. melegakan masalah tdo I.. DONE
11. Breast pad – From Avent and Autumz DONE.. need to add some disposable type
12. Warmer – My fren kata guna air suam pun dah cukup.. so not necessary yet
13. Sterilizer – Ni pun I guna manual jer.. everything basuh dgn air suam
14. Drying rack – Dah ada yg lama DONE

Bedding

1. Baby Cot – guna yg sedia ada DONE
2. Mattress – Sleep n Sound latex  DONE
3. Mattress protector – guna rubber mat by Fiffy jer DONE
4. Pillow & Bolster – Kekabu  DONE
5. Bedding set – Disney set (Pink color) & Aussino set (Blue color) DONE
6. Sleep Positioner - Portable BabyCot by Mothercare DONE
7. Dresser / changing table – Not necessary
8. Mosquito Net & Stand - KIV

Clothing

1. Mittens & booties – New & Old stock DONE
2. Swaddle / receiving blankets – Gugu Swaddle Pod, Baby Cocoon & Carters Sleeping Bag + Napkin yg sedia ada  DONE
3. Clothes of all sorts itself – Short sleeves, long sleeves, jumper, rompers DONE
4. Baby binder – Old stock & new colourful binder DONE
5. Baby Bib – still need to add some more DONE
6. Headbands & Leggings – Ni pun dah ada.. so maybe u guys can guess already the gender **winks DONE
7. Socks/ Foot covers – Carters & Mothercare DONE
8. Handkerchief – Gerbers DONE
9. Hats/Bonnet  DONE

Diapering

1. Nappy changing mat – guna yg sedia ada DONE
2. Diapers for newborns -  Huggies Newborn DONE
3. Nappy Liners - mula2 rasa not necessary.. tp lepas baca dr few komen, mcm ada kegunaan jugak. Sebabnya bole letak liner atas pampers.. so if baby poops only.. buang jer liner, then pakai balik pampers if x kena air kencing.. seep jer kan.. so DONE
4. Wipes – Baby Kiko & Tesco brand DONE
5. Muslin wraps / lampin – Anakku stock lama  DONE
6. Safety Pin – Not necessary

Bathing & Grooming

1. Bath tub – Guna yg sedia ada DONE
2. Sponge - KIV
3. Hooded towels – Anakku brand 2 pcs DONE
4. Baby bath + Shampoo – Sebamed & Drypers DONE
5. Baby lotion/ oil – Minsyam Olive lotion & Sebamed baby lotion DONE
6. Baby Powder – Baby liquid talc by Mothercare & Chicco Protective Talcum Powder
7. Cotton roll/buds - DONE
8. Grooming set (baby brush, comb, toothbrush, scissors and deluxe nail clippers, With soft touch grips and compact travel case, decongester, bath thermometer and handy emery boards)   – Mothercare Ergonomic grooming set.. mahal hokey.. tp sebab Umi berkenan kena beli jugakk.. haha DONE

Baby Care

1. Thermometer - Watson DONE
2. Nappy Rash Cream – Sebamed  DONE
3. Vicks- Hati2 bila nk beli Vicks yer.. bukan semua sesuai utk infant but most of them for children/toddler..
4. Minyak yuyee / telon – Ubat berubat from Nona Roguy.. trust in Malay product DONE
5. Tungku Baby - DONE
6. Gripe Water/ Colic Water (utk kembung)
7. Syringe/Medicator for Medicine
8. Methylated Spirit (utk cuci pusat ) – tgu Doktor bagi lepas bersalin

Laundry

1. Nappy/clothes detergent – Baby Organix  DONE
2. Clothes hangers – Umbrella type DONE
3. Bakul baju baby (kotor) - KIV

Travel system

1. Stroller – KIV.. sedang tgu green lite from hubby for my wishlist stroller.. Quinny plss.. huhu
2. Car seat – CS411 model from Sweet Cherry DONE
3. Travel / diaper bag – KIV.. looking forward for Simple Dimple Papa bag.. sbb nk suruh my hubby yg carry.. hehehe
4. Baby carrier – dah ada yg lama.. but still surveying carrier suitable for infant.. tgk laa nanti mcmana.. 

Now come to my own list.. keperluan & kehendak.. hehehe

Umi List 

Hospital checklist

1. ID Card  DONE
2. Kad Lawatan Hospital/Buku Merah  DONE
3. Telefon Bimbit & Kamera DONE
4. Buku/Majalah
5. T-Shirt Lengan Panjang/Blouse DONE
6. Kain Batik DONE
7. Sweater
8. Tudung Instant DONE
9. Stoking Kaki Tebal DONE
10. Tuala Mandi DONE
11. Tuala Muka DONE
12. Toiletries (Sabun, berus gigi, ubat gigi, shampu, sikat etc) DONE
13. Kurma
14. Air Zam zam/ selusuh
15. Disposable Panties  DONE
16. Maternity pads – Intimate, Pureen & Kotex
17. Slipper -
18. Hot water Flusk -
19. Mug, Plate, Spoon n Fork
20. Food - Cream crackers - DONE

Nursing

1. Nursing Bras - DONE
2. Breast pad – Avent & Autumz DONE
3. Nursing blouse/shirt – supplied by Aida DONE
4. Nursing Cover – Medan DONE
5. Nipple Cream – Mothercare DONE
6. tungku - DONE
7. bengkung moden -  DONE
8. socks - DONE
9. kain batik - DONE

Confinement

1. Set berpantang – Nona Roguy  DONE
2. Nipple Cream – Mothercare DONE
3. Tungku – Moden & Traditional DONE
4. Bengkung moden -  DONE

 

Dear My Angel..

Umi & Abi sedaya upaya penuhi keperluan sayang mengikut kemampuan kami.. Umi, Abi & Abg Darwisy sgt excited dan x sabar nk jumpa dgn kamu.

Umi doakan sayang sentiasa sehat sampai tiba masanya.. teruskan segala aktiviti kegemaran kamu di dalam perut Umi, sbb Umi akan merindui saat2 merasa pergerakan kamu nanti.

Semoga Allah permudahkan perjalanan kita nanti.. dan keluar laa bila dah tiba masanya nanti okey.. Sama2 bantu Umi bersalin cara Normal di hujung minggu yea.. InsyaAllah.. kalo diizinkan Nya..

Lots of love..