Our lunchie at Pulau Sayak

Ni pun citer last week Sunday activiti.. kami sekeluarga.. I mean our big family sebelah hubby.. with 2 sista in laws families plus my parents in law keluar tengahari having our lunch at Pulau Sayak.. lama rasanya kami tak ke sana.. so saja laa my 2nd sister in law - kak Bani, ajak lunch di sana. Padahal sebelum keluar mmg dah masak siap2 pun.. preparation utk dinner plak la tu.. hehehe

Darwisy get ready nk ke Pulau Sayak.. testing sunglasses umi sbb cuaca yg agak panas skrg ni.. hehehee Muka2 hepi depan makanan yg nyum.. nyumm.. sedap hingga menjilat jari.. nasi goreng, mee udang, keow teow udang.. jus tembikai, jus oren, limau ais.. mmg menyelerakan time panas2 terik ni.. : )
Bila dah kenyang.. mula laa kaki nk jejak pantai.. and this is Darwisy 1st time akceli visiting pantai live.. sebelum ni tgk tv and dari dalam keta jer.. so bila x pernah ni agak pelik ckit laa for this lil' 1st timer kan. Tapi cousin2 yg lain bukan main lagi laa.. kalo ada yg bawak baju salin.. rasanya dah lama berendam dah tu : )

de lil' Crocs familia.. nk iklan jab.. ngeh ngeh

** hmm terlupa lak nk tgk nama restoran yg kitorang had lunch. Tu pun petua dari my sista in law punya fren laa.. next time kalo ada rezeki lagi i'll update in here : )

Penat laa shopping camni.. huhu

Keluar dgn my hubby today shopping susu and pampers lil' Darwisy di Tesco SP. Memandangkan hari ni hari utk berehat.. so agak lewat laa kitorang keluar.. tujuan pun semata-mata nk beli barang keperluan then balik...

Both hubby and me mmg suka aktiviti window shopping ni.. hehe.. tgk2 barang.. then buat comparison.. saja jer suka2.. bukan nk beli pun.. ada jugak laa tgk barang2 dlm waiting list utk dibeli.. just masa jer belum tiba lagi.. hehehe.. biasa laa kitorang ni mmg suka membeli.. but still bole control nafsu laa.. buy the necessity things 1st.. then necessary.. other than dat.. will be consider later.. :p

Kalo dulu2 berdua jer.. bole laa nk ralit jer time shopping ni.. skrg ni bila dah ada si kecik ni.. haiyaaaaa.. kena buat cepat2 loo.. biasa laa budak2 kan cepat boring.. so once dia boring mcm2 laa peel yg dibuatnya ok.. Part yg paling I benci bila dia nk beli any toy yg berkenan di hati.. Bukan x bole beli.. tp dah selalu sgt2 weii... rumah dah penuh ngan mainan dia jer.. iskk iskk.

Tadi pun si kecik ni dah pegang keta Cars - Changeable colors car.. berapa price..? RM28 per pc just for 2cm size car.. not dat we're not afford to buy... tp rasanya sgt laa x berbaloi utk beli mahal2 just to play for few second then rosakkkk.. kenal sgt laa this little soon to be engineer.. Dpt jaa toy baru, abis semua dia rongkah...bukannya reti nk pasang balik.. karang umi dia laa jadi mangsa nk kena pasang haiihhhhh..

Then umi & abi berjaya changed his mind to buy mini aircraft.. instead of buying that expensive little Cars - car, Darwisy get 2 aircraft in return. The most boring part, belum abis Umi & Abi nk shopping.. dia bole nangis2 suruh bukak the seal sbb nk main dgn his new toy.. aiyakkkkk.. kalo nangis ckit2 bole la umi nk pujuk.. dia hentam jerit kuat2 satu tesco leh dengaq... haihhhh.. mo kena smack dah budak kecik ni.. sabo jer laaa.. so end up kena bukak laa dulu plastik then bagi dia main dat toy dalam troli.. of course laa bayar k.. slalu pun camtu.. tiap kali gi shopping jer.. terpaksa letak plastic kosong kat kaunter sbb nk scan barcode price kat ctu..

Masa ni nk unload barang masuk dlm keta.. tu pun buat perangai ntah pa2 jaa

Kiri kanan dgn toy baru.. haihhh.. Darwisy.. oh Darwisy.. bikin fening laaa :p

Bila panas kita berendam di Bkt Ijau.. yeay yeayyy..!!!

Tiba2 ja my sister in law ajak me n Darwisy ikut diorang ke Bukit Ijau on Saturday morning last week.. mulanya malas gak nk ikut since my hubby x balik lagi.. nk lepas si kecik tu join diorang saja.. takut lak x tercontrol my sister nanti dgn dia kan.. so bila di pk apa salah nya kan.. lgpun cuti sekolah ni mesti laa budak2 ni nk rasa gak berjalan.. so ke Bukit Ijau kami tuju.. hanya utk bermandi manda n main air.. Rasanya

Port yg dipilih berdekatan dgn chalet kat ctu.. air yg tenang dan x terlalu dalam.. sesuai laa utk budak2 n mak budak nk main air kan.. hehehe

Darwisy.. even takut n seriau dgn tahap kesejukan air sungai.. tapi still gak x nak lepas peluang main air.. asyik buli makngah jaa suh carry dia.. maklum laa umi x bawak baju salin so xleh laa nk sama main air..

Anak2 kakak I yg gumbira sekali berendam dalam air yg deras mengalir.. kalo I bawak baju.. mau gak join diorang ni.. hehehe

Bila dah puas berendam.. mesti laa perut berkeroncong kan.. tp dalam byk2 pilihan makanan/bekal - nasi goreng n kueh.. Mr. Potato gak yg jadi pilihan.. siap control bekas lagi.. org len xleh ambik.. sbb lil' Darwisy nk makan sorang2.. iskk iskkk

Time ni kami dah pakat nk balik dah.. x plan nk lepak lama pun.. saja nk menyejukkan badan time panas2 terik ni. Tgk laa pic atas ni, my son dah buat muka x pueh ati ni.. hoho.. yea laa umi ni nk snap pic paksa dia jadi model.. sampai xnak pandang camera langsung.. gaya pun x ikhlas.. tp cute jer.. hahaha

Nampak cantik gak chalet yg ada di Bkt Hijau ni.. maybe next planning kami nk go for daily use only bila datang visit ke cni lagi.. senang nk melepak sampai satu ari kan.. hehehe.. InsyaAllah

Nak beli kamera.. nak belii..!

Memandangkan my previous camera dah rosak.. menyebabkan aktiviti berblogging menjadi kurang.. mood pun hilang huhuhu.. so utk tdk membantutkan my kreativiti .. kononnyerr.. hehehehe.. perlu laa sekali, I beli kamera yg baru. Harga pasaran kamera digital skrg ni bole dikatakan agak murah dari dulu.. tp still laa melibatkan ratusan ringgit kan.. hehehe.. kalo x dipikirkan komitmen yg panjangggg.. nak jer beli kamera yg mcm profesional cameraman pakai.. ye laa gambar cantik.. kalo boleh up ckit skill n teknik.. bole buat side income gak.. angan2.. hehehe

Tapi... I cuma bole sediakan budget serendah yg bole.. tp dgn kepuasan yg maksimum.. macammana..??? haaaa.. satu panduan yg amat berguna bila I jumpa tips2 di bawah di salah satu website. So.. I rasa amat laa berguna buat kawan2 semua aka cameraman/ladies amatur.. yg menggunakan kamera pd saat gumbira.. sila baca yeaa.. will give u gud guide here.. : )

Panduan Memilih Kamera Digital
Ramai juga yang ingin memiliki kamera digital tetapi tidak tahu memilihnya. Zaman sekarang, orang dah tak pakai kamera analog yang beroperasi menggunakan teknik dedahan cahaya kepada filem, tetapi semuanya menggunakan digital. Bila sebut saja kamera digital yang ada 10 megapixel, maka ramailah yang terngaga, "Wow... 10 megapixel!". Saya kerap kali terdengar orang tanya, "Awak punya kamera berapa megapixel? Berapa harga beli?" Bila saya jawab, "5.0 megapixel, harga RM1200" Lalu dikatakan, "Mahalnya, saya beli 6.0 megapixel cuma RM700 sahaja." Dalam hati saya cuma menjawab, "Sebenarnya di Carefoure pun, ada cuma RM300 lebih, kamera yang berkemampuan hingga 12 megapixel!" Inilah sindrom tidak memahami teknologi, sehingga merugikan kita. Justeru saya ingin berkongsi sedikit tentang panduan mendapatkan kamera digital yang baik.

Saya sendiri bukanlah pakar dalam bidang kamera, bukan juga cameraman yang bagus, cuma sekadar berkongsi teori yang wajib difahami dan diketahui. Bak kata orang, ilmu itu suatu kekayaan. Dengan ilmu boleh mengelakkan kerugian. Memahami Keperluan Megapixel Kamera Hakikatnya, untuk cetakan gambar digital sehingga bersaiz A4, kita cuma perlukan cuma sehingga 3 megapixel sahaja. Lebih dari itu, ia tidak akan lagi mencantikkan kualiti cetakan. Kualiti cetakan anda tidak terjejas. Tidak akan bertambah cantik. Apatah lagi jika anda cuma 'mencuci' gambar sekadar bersaiz 4R ata 6R, tiada maknanya menggunakan megapixel yang besar.

Apa itu megapixel?
Megapixel secara mudahnya ialah saiz digital sesuatu gambar. Gambar yang diambil oleh kamera digital yg terdiri daripada berjuta2 pixel titik warna.
Mudahnya, jika titik itu semakin banyak dalam satu ruangan yang sempit, titik itu akan menjadi lebih kecil. Jika titik itu menjadi lebih kecil, maka sudah tentu kualiti gambar akan lebih halus. Saya tidak mahu menggunakan kaedah yang terlalu teknikal, cukuplah anda faham dengan cara yang mudah: Adakah pen yang bermata besar boleh lukis satu lukisan yang halus? Sudah tentu tidak. Suatu gambar yang halus dan cantik bila titik-titiknya itu sangat halus. Justeru, jika sampai tahap yang halusnya itu sudah memenuhi ruang, maka ia tidak lagi boleh halus.

Kalaupun gambar itu halus, pencetaknya pula tidak mampu untuk mencetak sehalus itu. Masih blur? Mudahnya, cukuplah kamera digital anda bermegapixel 4 megapixel untuk menghasilkan kualiti gambar yang baik. Lebih daripada itu, anda tidak perlu lagi, melainkan anda seorang juru kamera profesional yang memang kerja anda menghasilkan gambar dan diupah beribu2 ringgit. Jangan bazirkan duit kepada perkara yang kita sendiri tidak gunakan. Jangan bazirkan duit dengan beli yang bermegapixel tinggi.

Hari ini, majoriti megapixel paling kurang yang dijual dikedai ialah 4 megapixel.

Lensa
Unsur yang kedua yang sangat penting, tetapi sering diabaikan ialah jenis lensa. Tidak pernah orang tanya apak jenis lensa yang digunakan. Lensa yang baik ialah jenis vario tessar, atau leica, ataupun nikkor, ataupun lens canon. Setakat ini, Leica yang digunakan oleh Lumix Panasonic antara yang terbaik dan sering mendapat pengiktirafan dunia. Namun begitu, lense Nikkor oleh kamera Nikon juga bagus dan tidak pernah dipertikaikan kredibilitinya. Sony Cybershot sekarang ini pun menggunakan lens jenis Vario Tessar Carl Zeiss, yang juga lens yang baik. Namun jika perbandingan dibuat, daripada gambar2 yang diambil dengan cahaya yang sama, setakat ini saya nampak Lens Leica lah yang memberi imej yang baik.

Sensor
Kamera yang baik juga tidak bergantung kepada lensa sahaja, tetapi bergantung kepada sensor cahaya. yang digunakan. Sekarang ini, kebanyakan kamera menggunakan CMOS sensor. Ada juga yang menggunakan CCD lens, namun kedua-duanya tidak banyak perbezaannya. Sensor cahaya membolehkan penetapan kadar pendedahan lens kepada cahaya seperti ISO400, ISO100 dan seumpamanya. Secara mudahnya, jika anda ambil gambar dalam gelap, anda kena guna ISO400 tetapi dalam cerah hanya perlu guna ISO100. Perlu diingatkan juga, jika anda guna ISO400, sebenarnya gambar anda tidak akan menjadi cantik. Akan wujud banyak Noise pada gambar tersebut, akibat kekurangan cahaya. Gambar yang cantik terhasil kerana cahaya yang cukup. Namun begitu bagi SLR, ISO100 sehingga ISO1250 masih boleh 'diguna' walaupun kebanyakannya boleh sampai sehingga ISO3200. Selain daripada itu, image yang terhasil akan lebih banyak Noise.

Image Processor
Selain daripada jenis lens dan sensor yang merubah harga sesebuah kamera digital, jenis pemproses imej juga menjadi faktor yang memberikan perubahan pada harga. Semakin canggih pemproses imej, semakin cantiklah imej yang terhasil dan semakin mahal lah harganya. Kalau dulu, kamera menggunakan teknik dedahan cahaya yang masuk melalui lens dan akan terbentuklah imej pada filem. Namun sekarang, sudah tidak ada filem, tetapi menggunakan image processor yang bertindak sebagai 'retina' untuk pengimejan.

Fungsi-fungsi Tambahan
Kamera menjadi mahal kerana fungsi-fungsi tambahan seperti image stabilizer yang menyerap getaran tangan anda, fungsi penetapan kadar ISO dan fungsi2 automatik lain seperti mengubah kadar cahaya untuk jenis2 gambar tertentu, juga mengubah masa bukaan lens. Semakin banyak fungsi yang digunakan, semakin mahal harganya, dan semakinlah perlu anda pandai guna.

Saiz dan Rekabentuk
Rekabentuk dan saiz menentukan harga. Semakin nipis kemera yang digunakan, semakin mahal lah harga tersebut. Saranan saya, hanya kalau anda ada duit lebih saja beli yang bersaiz nipis. Jika rasa tak nak membazir belilah yang bersaiz biasa sahaja.

TIPS-TIPS MEMBELI KAMERA
· Jika anda bukan profesional, belilah kamera autofokus dan bukan SLR kamera.
· Jika anda nak belajar teknik-teknik fotografi, belilah SLR kamera. SLR tu jenis yang ada lens boleh tambah-tambah dan boleh dipulas-pulas tu.
· Jika ada duit lebih, jenama Lumix Panasonic berharga dalam 1000 boleh dibeli, jika bajet kurang, carilah Nikon atau Canon atau Sony Cybershot berharga dalam RM700. Jika bajet sikit sangat, saranan saya camera paling murah tetapi boleh hasilkan gambar yang baik ialah Canon. dengan harga RM499 anda boleh dapatkan.
· Pilih jenis bateri yang digunakan. Sebaiknya, cari yang bateri bersaiz AA atau AAA supaya jika kehabisan bateri, anda boleh beli bateri di kedai. Jika anda beli yang jenis bateri yang khas digunakan utk kamera tersebut, masalah utama jika bateri habis di saat2 penting.
· Pilih jenis Memori Kad yang digunakan. Memori Kad jenis SD ialah yang paling murah, dan senang didapati. Sekarang ini boleh beli yang 2 - 4 GB dah di pasaran. Canon, dan Lumix biasanya guna SD. Ada juga yang guna M2, memori kad ini agak mahal biasanya digunakan oleh Sony Cybershot. Sony juga guna MemoryStick Pro Duo yang harga nya mahal. Satu lagi jenis memori kad xD. Yang ini lagi lah mahal dan agak susah didapati. Kamera Olympus biasnya guna jenis ini. Kalau rasa nak tambah memori kad lain kali, elakkan beli yang jenis ini. Kena ingat, kamera digital tak semestinya guna jenis yang sama memori kadnnya. Pilihlah memory kad yang murah.
· Jika gunakan batery AA. Sila beli charger dan batery rechargeble sekali. Beli yang MH nya lebih daripada 2000 supaya tempoh caj lebih cepat. Jika beli yang 1200 anda akan berjanggut menunggu bila bateri siap dicaj penuh.
Artikel dari Ahmad Sufyan Che Abdullah [iDeologi] on 2007/3/3



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10 mistakes to avoid.. ladies plsss

Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes You Make With Men - And What To Do About It...
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of Their Dreams And How To Make Sure You AvoidEvery One Of Them...


MISTAKE #1: Betting YourLove Life On His "Potential"
Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?Of course you do.And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well.Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.What's going on here?It's actually very simple.Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day.Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.And guess what?Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well.Sometimes for months or years...But why in the world would a woman do that!?Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection".Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.How do I know?Because I've seen it at least a hundred times...And because I've been this guy in the past myself.Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much. I'm amazed the women put up with me.But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change. The women I dated hoped I'd change.The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the "potential" they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.Talk about a losing battle.It doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense... But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.



MISTAKE #2: Assuming You"Get" Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them. But does the same apply for men?As you probably already know, men are generally more visual. As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and "intuition".Women don't seem to remember this about men.So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.Looks just happen to be the most obvious way... But looks are NOT the most powerful.If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY woman can learn how...


MISTAKE #3: Pretending ToBe Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.Another HORRIBLE idea.Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.Wrong.Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely. You don't have to act like an "easy" woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.So if you think that making him more attracted to you means "playing to the man's fantasies" from the start, think again.You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.


MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You"Feel" Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they "feel" too early on.Listen...Attractive, single, successful men are rare.They get a LOT of attention from women.Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.And guess what?Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.They know what to expect.And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything... It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.This signals to the man that you're just like one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives. This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...


MISTAKE #5: Misreading TheImportant "Signals" That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.The signals men send have 4 main levels:1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally available"3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the futureThe funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.That's great news to women... Men can't help it!You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.


MISTAKE #6: Relying OnYour Natural Ability ToJudge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.Especially men.The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people. I've studied peoples behavior, "inner psychology" and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for. Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious. Men are different.Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays of status.VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship. Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around. You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.


MISTAKE #7: Expecting ARelationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.But those are the exceptions, not the rule.Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.Think, "controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!"So let me be clear...I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.So what can you do as a woman?You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more "natural" way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.


MISTAKE #8: Trying To "Convince"Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?Right! They try to "convince" the man to feel differently.Well, I have news for you...YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!Never, ever, ever. You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".Think about it. If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with him?But we all do it. Men are the worst at this by the way.They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.Bad idea. Another one that will never work.

MISTAKE #9: Not KnowingWhat To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...And I don't mean just sex.I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.


MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.Hey, I've been there myself.Let me tell you a little about me. Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction. Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says "he's not ready".You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.


Oh, I Almost Forgot...
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Viva la differences

Dear readers and frens.. this is 1 good article that I found and want to share with u.. all ladies. I’m pretty sure a lot of us complaining on how MEN wouldn’t understand Us (WOMEN) and not even trying to. But If you want to learn how to create happy and lasting relationship by understanding our MEN.. then keep reading..


You Just Don't Understand
by Deborah Tannen, Ph.D.
William Morrow and Company, 1990
Reviewed by Laura Bryannan

That men and women are on different wavelengths when it comes to communicating is probably not news to you. However, "Can We Talk?" the cover story of the December issue of New Age Journal, provides some excellent new perspectives on this age-old problem. The author, Peggy Taylor, interviewed sociolinguist Deborah Tannen, who has written a book called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. Tannen's research shows that the differences between the communication styles of men and women go far beyond mere socialization, and appear to be inherent in the basic make up of each sex.

Tannen first noticed these differences when studying videotapes another researcher had made of best friends asked to have a conversation together. In contrast to the girls, boys were extremely uncomfortable with this request. Girls in all age groups would face each other and immediately began to talk, eventually ending up discussing the problems of one girl. Boys, on the other hand, sat parallel to each other and would jump from topic to topic--centered around a time when they would do something together.

Tannen observed that, "For males, conversation is the way you negotiate your status in the group and keep people from pushing you around; you use talk to preserve your independence. Females, on the other hand, use conversation to negotiate closeness and intimacy; talk is the essence of intimacy, so being best friends means sitting and talking. For boys, activities, doing things together, are central. Just sitting and talking is not an essential part of friendship. They're friends with the boys they do things with."

It's not hard, from even these simple observations, to see the potential problems when men and women communicate. Women create feelings of closeness by conversing with their friends and lovers. Men don't use communication in this way, so they can't figure out why their women are continually talk, talk, talking. Eventually, many men just tune their women out. The ubiquitous image of the housewife at the breakfast table talking to her husband who has his head buried in the newspaper comes to mind.

Tannen notes that men are confused by the various ways women use conversation to be intimate with others. One of these ways she calls "troubles talk." She says, "For women, talking about troubles is the essence of connection. I tell you my troubles, you tell me your troubles, and we're close. Men, however, hear troubles talk as a request for advice, so they respond with a solution." When a man offers this kind of information the woman often feels as if he is trying to diminish her problem or cut her off.

In his eyes, he's being supportive, because men don't talk to each other about their troubles unless they really do want a solution; talking about their problems is wallowing in them. The man doesn't realize that his woman was simply trying to establish a certain kind of intimacy with him--inviting him to reciprocate and share himself with her. Because of these essential differences in approach, Tannen says that the most common complaint she hears from men about women "...is that women complain all the time and don't want to do anything about it...Men misunderstand the ritual nature of women's complaining."

An interesting dance emerges from these different approaches: The woman, craving closeness and intimacy with her man, talks to him about her problems with friends, family, her job, etc. She seeks to have her man respond as her girlfriends have always done, and talk with her about his concerns. The man, however, hears these conversations as requests for advice, not intimacy. He considers the problem and offers a solution, or dismisses the issue, as the boys he knew always did. When his woman continues to go on about these same concerns, showing no movement to consider his advice, he becomes confused and eventually angry; he begins to believe that his woman is an expert at talking about nothing. The woman begins to feel that her man doesn't care about her because he won't talk to her in a way that feels intimate.

It is important for women to understand that men's communicating is all about status. Think about all those nature shows you've ever seen on PBS. The prime goal of male beasties is to be able to mate; to do this they must be powerful enough to challenge the lead males in the herd. As they grow up, they bide their time by establishing a pecking order. When a beastie is big and strong enough to have most of the other males "under" him, he is ready to take on the "old man." If he wins the fight, he gets to mate with the females of his choice (and they will mate only with him).

Tannen has found that human males behave in exactly the same way. She discussed the research of Marjorie Goodwin, who studied boys in Philadelphia for a year and a half. "She found that boys give orders as a way of gaining social status. The high-status boys gave orders just to maintain their dominance, not because they particularly needed the thing done. And the boys who were being told what to do were low status, by virtue of doing what they were told."

This dynamic is important to remember when looking at another major area of miscommunication between men and women. Women cannot understand the resistance men seem to have when asked for assistance or consideration of some kind or another. Women must remember the above scenario and understand that, for men, doing what they're asked to do means they have lost status in that relationship. Men often feel that women are trying to manipulate them. What a woman might see as a simple request--no big deal-- is seen by her man an attempt to manipulate him into a "one-down" position.

Tannen discusses this issue further: "Women want men to do what we want. We want them to want to do what we want, because that's what we do. If a woman perceives that something she's doing is really hurting a man, she wants to stop doing it. If she perceives that he really wants her to do something, she wants to do it. She thinks that that's love and he should feel the same way about her. But men have a gut-level resistance to doing what they're told, to doing what someone expects them to do. It's the opposite response of what women have." She reminds readers that, of course, there are men who are very helpful toward their women. "But if a man is going to be touchy, it's more likely to go in that direction. Whereas if a woman is insecure, she's more likely to go in the other direction, [and] be super- accommodating."

In sharp contrast to the communication style of men, which seeks to establish and maintain status and dominance, women's communicating is more egalitarian, or rule-by-consensus. When women get together they seek the input of the other women present and make decisions based on the wishes of all. Tannen notes that this type of communication style is becoming more important, and is in alignment with the Japanese style of management. Men doing business with Japanese companies often have to radically change their style of communicating to accommodate the more personal and intimate approach of the Japanese businessman.

One may get the impression from this discussion that women's style of communicating is superior to men's. Indeed, since the dawning of the women's movement there have been many declaring that men just don't know how to communicate (because they don't communicate like women). Sensitivity courses galore have been offered in hopes of teaching men to communicate more like women. However, Tannen states that there is nothing pathological about men's style of communication, and that women's communicating also has it's down-sides.

One fact I found particularly fascinating follows from women's communication style of consensus-building. With women, consensus means thinking alike, being in agreement, being the SAME! When one woman in a group decides to go her own way in some matter, there is often trouble: "If a girl does something the other girls don't like, she'll be criticized, or even ostracized...What do girls put other girls down for? For standing out, for seeming better than the others...I mean, really--no wonder people talk about women's fear of success!" In shock, Peggy Taylor, asked, "So you're saying the female mode prevents excellence?" And Tannen replied, "It prevents displaying it."

Pretty interesting, eh? I imagine that there are a fair number of women out there who have experienced that kind of isolation from their friends(?) at some time in their lives. It is unfortunate that exceptional women not only find themselves up against men who are threatened by their success, but are often faced with their sisters throwing stones in their path too. This need for consensus--for being alike--is something women need to explore further if we sincerely wish to support each other in advancing our individual goals and dreams.

In closing, Tannen makes the point that both sexes need to understand the inherent differences in their communication styles so that they don't expect the impossible. There is middle ground where men and women can meet and find understanding. Women must learn that the kind of intimate talk they have with their girlfriends should remain just that. Trying to turn your man into a girlfriend will usually fail because men, in general, don't create feelings of closeness in that way. Men, too can understand that when their woman is talking, she is attempting to connect to him--she's not just talking to talk, nor is she trying to readjust the status of their relationship. By sharing more of himself he shows her, in a way she can understand, that he's not pushing her away; that he does indeed love her and want to be close to her.

After reading this article, it's easy to see that a major source of fuel for the battle between the sexes is this vastly different way of communicating. Perhaps if men stopped expecting women to communicate like men, and women stopped trying to get men to communicate like women, we would have enough energy left to appreciate how each sex compliments the other in a wonderful way. Life would be pretty boring if men and women were the same (and I'm not referring to naughty bits here!) Viva la difference-- what a challenging way to learn about life and each other!

Again...

Kuda putih kesayanganku kurang sihat kebelakangan ni.. my hubby terpaksa bawak balik ke Lumut utk dirawat... huhu.. Disebabkan conditionnya yg kurang bagus.. my hubby bertolak awal petang tadi.. Rasa pelik pulak bila masa yg terluang seketika cuma..

Time is running sooo fast... Now I'm getting this feeling again... slowly.. how I hate to feel alone.. haihhhhhh...

Starting missing him.. Miss He..

Apologizing..

Good words to remember..

"Apologizing does not mean that you are wrong and the other one is right.. It simply means that you value the relationship much more than your ego.. "

Kantoiiiii...!!!

Pernah dgr nama Zee Avi..?? I rasa dah ramai yg kenal.. and maybe ramai jugak yg belum kenal.. But she's quite famous rite now.. tho bukan dlm negara sendiri.. but she made us proud as a Malaysian.. famous di negara barat.. we got talent weiii..!!

Memandangkan I belum pernah dgr lagi lagu nyanyian si Zee Avi ni bermain di corong2 radio.. so I search laa for her video dlm u-tube.. of course jumpa.. and tru u-tube laa actually bakat beliau dikesan lepas she uploaded her own singing video. X sia2 kan..

Oh yer.. her singing kedengaran simple and senang jer yet relaxing.. I think I'm gonna love her song too.. So I attached kat sini de lyrics also.. Let enjoice .. Kantoi..!! Sila jgn kantoi kan diri anda sudah ler.. :p

Semalam I call you, you tak answer

You kata you keluar pergi dinner

You kata you keluar dgn kawan you

But when I called Tommy he said it wasn't true

So I drove my car pergi Damansara

Tommy kata maybe you tengok bola

Tapi bila I sampai you.. you tak ada

Lagilah I jadi gila

So I called and called sampai you answer

You kata sorry sayang tadi tak dengar

My phone was on silent, I was at the gym

Tapi latar belakang suara perempuan lain

Sudah lah sayang, I don't believe you

I've always known your words were never true

Why am I with you, I pun tak tahu

No wonderlah my friends pun tak suka you

So I guess that's the end of our story

Akhir kata she accepted his apology

Tapi last last kita dapat tahu she was cheating too

With her ex boyfriend's best friend - Tommy

**pssttt... wat goes around will come around beb.. so sila laa jujur pada setiap pasangan kita

My sister Engagement Day & Bufday Celebration

Sabtu lepas telah pun berlangsung majlis pertunangan adik perempuan I yg ke-6.. alhamdulillah segala-galanya berjalan dgn lancar. Majlis berlangsung pada jam 4 petang dan diteruskan dgn jamuan makan petang.. bihun dan kuih muih menjadi pilihan pada petang itu. Actually dat date adalah hari bufday my sister.. sbb tu laa dia nk sgt bertunang on dat day.. nasib baik laa hari Sabtu.. kalo weekdays.. rasanya kena handle sendiri la kot.. hehehe

Ahli keluarga lelaki yg hadir pada petang ituCincin disarungkan oleh kakak si tunang
Hantaran my sister bertemakan Pink
Hantaran pihak lelaki bertemakan Merah

Malam baru laa bermula bufday celebration for my sister. Yg ramai hadir of course la kengkawan adik I ni.. Org kuat majlis of course laa my mom and me.. Penat weiii...

** oh yer.. kek ditempah dari Jeri.. sila kunjungi blog Dapur&Oven utk details yer.. very yummy and cantekkk.. !!

2 is Better than 1

I'm loving this sweet songs sang by Taylor Swift n Boys like Girls. Let's enjoice the lyrics.. !!

I remember what you wore on our first day

You came into my life

And I thought hey

You know this could be something

'Cause everything you do and words you say

You know that it all takes my breath away

And now I'm left with nothing

So maybe it's true.. that I can't live without you

And maybe Two.. is better than One

But there's so much time, to figure out the rest in my lift

And you've already got me coming undone

And I'm thinking Two.. is better than One

I remember every look upon your face

The way you roll your eyes, the way you taste

You make it hard for breathing

'Cause when I close my eyes and drift away

I think of you and everything's okay

And finally now, believing

And maybe it's true, that I can't live without you

Well maybe Two.. is better than One

But there's so much time, to figure out the rest in my life

And you've already got me coming undone

And I'm thinking Two... is better than One

Yeah.. yeah..

I remember what you wore on our first day

You came into my life

And I thought hey

Maybe it's true.. that I can't live without you

Maybe Two.. is better than One

But there's so much time, to figue out the rest in my life

And you've already got me coming undone

And I'm thinking

oOohh I can't live without you

'Cause baby Two... is better than One

There's so much time, to figure out the rest in my life

And I've figured out with all that's said and done

Two.. is better than One

Two.. is better than One

*** Dear my love.. if you still remember you wore Red shirt the very first day we met.. : )

Na O Mei VS Domino

Skrg ni kan tgh rancak drama melayu Na O Mei ditayangkan di tv3.. I bet ramai laa yg mengikuti citer ni.. malang skali I mmg x berpeluang la nk jadi fans sbb waktu keja yg tidak normal mcm org lain.. huhu.. Dalam ramai2 peminat setia citer ni.. tiba2 termasuk la pulak my hubby dlm senarai.. isk iskkk.. Rasanya nearly tiap2 ari dia balik keja sebelum citer ni bermula sbb takut missed episod.. haihh

Nak dijadikan citer.. arini my hubby cuti sakit.. demam manja jer then dpt MC. I pun of course la ambik cuti kan sbb nk kena jaga org sakit.. hehe alasan jer tu. Agak petang ckit I ajak my hubby beli Domino pizza seperti yg telah dijanjikan sekian lama.. lama tau tgu nk tuntut Domino dari my hubby ni.. aiyakkk.. nasib baik laa I x ngidam.. kalo x.. xtau laa camner.. blame on my hubby k.. :p

I punya la plan konon2 lepas take away pizza nk lepak kat pantai bersih.. nk kelah laa lebih kurang kan.. tp rupanya my hubby dah ada plan dia sendiri dah.. iskkkk.. kitorang singgah jab kat pantai bersih yg sekian lamanya x dilawati. Time cinta2/dating2 dolu2 kerap laa.. hoho.. Kami snap2 picas jab.. melayan si kecik tgk laut n bot2 yg diikat di tepi pantai. Lepas tu.. balikkkkk.. huh..?? Apa jadi ngan my plan..? My hubby kata dia nk tgk Na O Mei.. so kami kena balik makan domino kat umah.. huhu.. kelah kat umah laa jawabnya.. aiyakkk..

Cuba tgk lil' Darwisy dipaksa senyum.. cute giler dia buat muka senyum fake tu hahahhaa Umi & anakanda tersayang Haaa.. korang mesti tau kat mana ni kan.. kami saja buat keja giler bawak si kecik ni posing kat replica jet kat Air Tawar.. dia mmg suka giler ngan kapal terbang.. siap nangis nak naik kapal terbang lagi.. pengsannn.. haihh.. Abg askar sila jgn marah yer.. kami tumpang posing jer heheheTadaaa... my Domino Pizza.. yummylicious.. oh yer.. sila jgn kata I ni perak/ketinggalan.. this is really my 1st trial makan Domino.. sbbnya sebelum ni mmg x terlintas pun rasa nk makan.. lagi satu kedai yg paling dekat pun kat Seberang Jaya.. jauh weii.. hahaha

Hey Ladies..!

Sudah ku bilang jgn terlalu yakin

Mulut lelaki byk juga tak jujur

Bila sakit hati wanita bisanya nangis

Sudah ku bilang jgn terlalu cinta

Kalau patah hati siapa mau nolong

Seperti langit dan matahari tak bersatu lagi

Hey ladies

Jangan mau dibilang lemah

Kita juga bisa menipu dan menduakan

Bila wanita sudah beraksi dunia hancur

Hey ladies sekarang cinta pakai otak

Jangan mau rugi hati dan juga rugi waktu

Bila dia merayumu ungat semuanya bohong

Memanglah tak semua lelaki busuk

namun ladies tetaplah harus waspada

Semogalah kita semua akhirnya

Mendapatkan cinta yg tulus

Sudah ku bilang jgn terlalu yakin

Mulut lelaki banyak juga tak jujur

Bila sakit hati wanita bisanya nangis

Lirik Hey Ladies - Rossa @ Blog LIrik Lagu Melayu - Lirikami

Just another sad story

EMPTY.. stressed.. Frustrated.. Angry.. Trapped..
So many words to describe.. but will anybody understand it..??
Deep inside I knew its Broken..
Tears.. it wouldn't stop..
Thinking.. nothing to think cause I'm blank..
Action.. how shuld I put everything together..??
If I just could say it out loud..
I dun even know when it started.. How .. Why..
Pls dun ask me why..
I dun even have the answer for myself..
Can I share with someone whom I can trust..?
But TRUST is the most valuable things to gain
Dear Allah.. pls lead me the way..

Rasa BEBAS dgn CD

Jom kita tgk aksi lil' Darwisy dgn CD barunya.. disebabkan cuaca yg sgt panas skrg ni.. saja laa Umi benarkan si Darwisy pakai CD tanpa baju.. wahh.. bukan main seronok budak kecik ni.. rasa BEBAS sekali.. haihhh.. dah mcm anak tarzan yg cute plak Umi tgk.. hehe

BEBAS.. bermain bermacam aksi
BEBAS.. bergerak ke sana ke mari

BEBAS .. si kecik berlari.. dgn pantas skali.. muka pun hepi..

BEBAS .. mengexplorasi.. tanpa dimarahi

BEBAS... mengejar ayam piru Abi

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Dan akhirnya..

Bila dah terlentok camni sbb terlampau letih.. Umi yg rasa BEBAS xyah ligan si kecik lagi hehehe

** mmg cute bila si comel pakai CD.. jom laa kita berCD : )

GSC - CNY celebration

Ni pulak citer pasal makan2 kelmarin- 1st Mar bersempena sambutan Chinese New Year. GSC ni kerja makan jer.. tp part paling best makan free la yer.. Objective for team spirit la of course.. jgn nmpak makan jer.. :p

Kali ni pakat2 buat pot luck sponsored by each team. Team kami yg kecil bawak kue talam n samosa ordered from Makcik Sujana- Melayu yer. So byk la jenis makanan dlm quantity yg agak byk.. Siap ada lebih lagi.. bole bawak balik.. selamat budget dinner I on dat day.. sbb I dah tapau siap2 haha.

Warga GSC sedang menyerbu makanan yg disediakan.. sila beratur yer kawan2
Kalo xmo berebut kita posing dulu yer

Lihat laa betapa tembam nya kami.. ni lepas makan lagi laa tembam hoho

Ibu mengandung x dilupakan.. nk ambik aura la tu..ngeh ngeh Ni laa saat2 bersedia utk memenuhkan ruang perut.. muka2 H.A.P.P.Y - time ni dera Yazery de boss tangkap gambaq kami.. hehe.. kita posing dulu yer :p

Cinta Pantai Merdeka

Lama betul x bersiar ke Pantai Merdeka.. dulu ni masa bercinta hampir tiap2 hari laa berdating di sana.. hehe. So last Saturday my hubby ajak jalan2 ke sana, saja laa nk mengimbas kenangan. Byk jugak laa perubahan yg ada skrg ni. Boleh dikatakan lebih mesra pengunjung laa.. tp bila dah terlampau mesra jadi sesak la plak kan.. nk jalan2 pun rasa kekok sbb sepanjang tebing ramai yg melepak.. huhu.. sempat gak laa I snap picture apa yg menarik di Pantai Merdeka.. jom layanzz

Gelanggang pocket bike.. xbole bawak dekat ni.. satgi si kecik tu nak naik fening laa.. huhu

Layang2 yg bermacam kaler.. gerai2 pun ada gak di sepanjang jalan.. bole cuci mata

Paksu n Darwisy apa lagi.. main laa kerja nyaa..

Medan selera yg lebih selesa dan menarik.. tp setakat yg I rasa blom lagi jumpa tempat yg betul2 best.. so xleh laa I nk rekemen kat cni. Tp ice kacang kat cni sgt laa menarik.. rasa..? x sempat nk rasa laa.. huhu

Khas utk kanak2 yer.. tp bukan bole start dgn si kecik berdua tu.. karang ada yg xnak balik.. hoho

My three musketeers.. : )

Tempat parking yg lebih teratur.. kalo dulu mana ada petak parking.. main belasah jer.. skrg dah ok dah

Apa lagi.. kalo free jalan2 la ke Pantai Merdeka.. sesuai utk bersantai seisi keluarga : )

Merdeka Beach Resort ni pun nmpak lebih menarik selepas di renovate.. nk pasang tent pun bole tau.. tp kat padang ler yer.. hehe

Parcel oh.. parcel..

Last week I rcvd my parcel from Nik - medaimedai.blogspot.com .. best2.. mmg tertunggu2 di rumah.. mana laa en. posmen x dtg2 lagi.. hehe

Tadaaa... my parcel sudah sampai.. nak tahu isi di dalam.. mari kita lihat

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Isi nya adalah.. jeng jeng

My new cloth diapers collection.. yeayyyyy.. !!So.. tugas seterusnya adalah acara membasuh my new CDs collection yg semakin banyak
I've got new shelf to keep my CDs collection.. hehe
Sronok jer tgk CDs yg kaler maler.. and also girraffe printed CD.. my 1st printed CD collection.

** I'll write an entry for my CDing experience next time..k..!!